How come every time I print new schedules I need to change them? It happens every single time. It doesn’t matter how much I plan, or how much feedback I collect before putting a new schedule together. Every time I head to the copy store I know I will be back within two days to do it all over again. My kids have a lovely collection of colored scrap paper to doodle on from all of the out-of-date schedules floating about the house. Their art is now sponsored by Growing Yogis. The only thing I have learned from this, so far, is only to print a few at a time.
I think this speaks to not really being able to plan anything entirely. There is a saying that keeps popping up in everything I read: “Man plans, God laughs.” This seems to hold true in my world lately. It can be so incredibly frustrating to watch the best laid plans crumble at our feet. Life's little speed bumps. We grasp at holding it all together but when it gets right down to it, there is simply nothing we can do but to go with it.
Yoga teaches us to practice non-grasping. Letting go. Going with the flow. Spontaneity. Change. Embracing the unexpected. Rolling with it. Thinking on the fly. These are not my favorite games to play. Lately, though, these are the things that are challenging me. From tropical storms that steal my power, to locating a new preschool four days before school is scheduled to begin, I am rolling with it. Or, at least I am working on rolling with it.
Controlling the need to not control the uncontrollable is my paradox. This is where my work is at the moment. My yoga. Yoga isn’t all physical. It isn’t all about having a flexible body, or the ability to sit still, focus on your breath, and meditate. We have to live it. Put it into practice and live it. Easier said than done, as usual.
Go ahead and make your plans. It’s great to have plans. Just be prepared to accept that you may have to change them. And maybe check the schedule on the website before you head on over to class.
Making time to practice yoga every day doesn’t work for all of us. Sometime finding more than five minutes of uninterrupted time can be an impossible task. Especially if your house is inhabited by the under 10 crowd as mine is. So we need to get creative. We need to sneak in the yoga. One way to do this is by moving with intention. By paying attention to what goes on below our necks. Most of us spend a great deal of our day in our brains. One of the reasons our bodies crave yoga is because it takes our awareness away from the thoughts that race through our heads and down into our bodies. You don’t need an hour long class every day to get to that place. Here are a few ways that I get sneaky about incorporating my yoga practice into my day:
3 Minute Meditation - Fill a laundry basket and tell your people that you are going to your room to fold laundry and, if they follow you, they have to help. Ok, so maybe it isn’t 100% truthful, but it is in the best interest of everyone in your household. Once safely in your room, close the door, sit on the floor, close your eyes, and tell yourself that you are breathing in and breathing out. All it takes is a few minutes of this to feel like a whole new person. I find this to be a particularly helpful tool when my brain is overwhelmed and gearing up for an anxiety attack.
Check in with your feet - Each time you find yourself standing in one place for any extended period of time (like washing dishes) , check in with your feet. For most of us our toes point out to the sides when we aren‘t paying attention. Turn them so they face forward. This small change will travel up your legs and knees and into your hips. Now, take it a step further, if you’d like, and think Mountain Pose with those legs. Use your core muscles too and washing the dishes is a whole new event.
And speaking of feet...use your whole foot - Each time you are getting up from a seated position or climbing stairs place your whole foot on the floor or step. No more running on the stairs on tip toes. This will again engage more muscles in your legs and bottom. When these muscles are working you are also taking some of the stress off your knees. Think of all the work your legs can get while you run upstairs to tuck your child back into bed seventeen times.
Sit on the floor - Skip chairs whenever you can. Sitting on the floor requires your hips to stretch, creating flexibility. The more opportunities you give your hips to stretch, the happier they become. Happy hips, happy body.
Picking things up - How many times a day do you bend over to pick things up? Every time you bend over think about putting some yoga into action. Fold over into a forward bend with intention instead of just reaching and grabbing. Pull in those core muscles and try it with your legs together (Uttanasana), legs apart (Prasarita Padottanasana), one leg up in a standing split, over to the side on one leg (Ardha Chandrasana - Half moon), you get the idea.
Find a little balance - Any time you find yourself standing in one place for any period of time, take a leg up off the floor and find your tree pose. Maybe it won’t build your focus the same way it will in a yoga class, but it will work your feet and strengthen your ankles. Remember to do both sides.
Use your tummy wisely - Engage your core muscles often. These muscles support your spine. By toning your core you are helping to prevent back injuries, as well as allowing your spine to elongate itself. This creates more space on the sides of your body, which in turn creates a slimmer appearance. So, sitting at your desk, driving in your car, taking a walk, wherever, pull in your core. It’s like a stomach crunch without all the fuss. Think about your core muscles wrapping around from the sides of your body to the center and then draw them up towards your rib cage. In and up, baby, in and up.
Butterflies in Bed - Baddhakonasana, Butterfly pose, is super easy to sink into while lying in bed or watching TV. Lie down in bed, or prop your back up on some pillows on the floor, bring your feet together and draw them in towards your groin. Use blankets or pillows under your knees for a little extra support if you’d like. Ahhh…..yummy.
Be thankful - Show gratitude for all that you have. We all have things we want, but sometimes its hard to remember to be grateful for what we already have. When we can begin to appreciate all that we do have our perspective begins to shift. We begin to see that often times we have what we need, and all the rest is just gravy.
In the last week I have heard at least 4 people say to me that they can't do yoga. For one of the following reasons: "I'm not flexible enough", "I don't want people to look at me", " I can't touch my toes", "I'm too busy". These are not excuses not to do yoga. Yoga is for everyone. It may be true that not all forms of yoga are for everyone but there is a lot of yoga out there. If the first class, or teacher, doesn't work, there is always another one to try. For example, if you live a sedentary lifestyle and are overweight, than you probably wouldn't want to attempt a Bikram class right off the bat. But, yoga is for everyone. Beginner classes are fabulous places that can benefit bodies or every shape, size and ability level. Certified instructors are there to help you. They want to help you. This is why they have become certified. There is no judgement in yoga. No one cares who can reach their toes, who can wrap their legs behind their ears, or who has the fittest body. There is a reason why no one cares. Because no one is noticing. If you are practicing yoga you are in your own body. Your own mind. You are connecting with your breath, you are working to your edge, you are finding yourself. It isn't about keeping up with the person on the next mat, its about challenging yourself. You get out what you put it. I had an interesting discussion with my physical therapist this week. He had just seen a new client who was around ten years old. An athlete. This child had good skills on the field but was experiencing pain due to inflexibility. Coaches don't look for flexibilty on the field or court. Coaches look toward developing strength and endurance and skill building.No offense to coaches, I happen to be married to one. Without some flexibility training problems are created in these developing bodies. Of course that can go the other way too. Too much flexibility and not enough strength is what has me seeing a physical therapist so that I can have these interesting discussions. For those who find themselves too busy for a class, think on this. What can you let go of for just one hour? Can you leave the dishes in the sink just once a week? Can you leave the kids with the sitter just an hour longer one day? Can you sneak out early on a Saturday morning before your family even knows you're gone? Can you take your kids and try a parent/child class? Just once. Just try it once and see how you feel after. See if the world collapses around you. See if its worth the trouble. I'm betting it is. Yoga is for everyone. There are more twists and takes on yoga than I can list. Yoga mixed with pilates, yoga in a chair for those who can't get on the floor, hot yoga, fast paced yoga full of flows, slower paced yoga called Yin, yoga for expectant mothers, yoga for the elderly, yoga for kids, yoga for babies, yoga to build strength, yoga to mellow out, yoga for the advanced student, yoga for the beginner. You get the idea. So no more excuses. Tell yourself a new story. Whoever you are, wherever you are, whatever you look like or think of yourself, there is yoga for you. If the first class isn't your cup of tea, try another. Keep trying. It will happen, and when it does, it will change your life.
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